Inclusive Language Basics: A Quick Guide
Respectful language mostly comes down to a few basics: use the pronouns on her profile consistently, correct mistakes briefly without over-apologizing, and follow the language she uses about herself when you're unsure. It's simpler than it might seem.
Use what's on her profile
Pronouns are usually stated clearly on a profile — using them consistently, without making a big deal of it, is the most respectful approach. It shouldn't need to be a topic of conversation; it's just how you address her.
Mistakes happen — correct and move on
A brief, genuine correction is better than a long, overdone apology that draws more attention to the slip than the mistake itself warranted. Everyone gets something wrong occasionally; how you handle it matters more than never making an error.
When in doubt, follow her lead
Skip outdated or clinical terminology and any language that reduces her to a body part or category. If you're ever unsure what term to use, the language she uses about herself is the best guide — and asking politely, once, is always fine.
Frequently asked questions
What's the simplest rule for using the right pronouns?
Use whatever's on her profile — it's usually stated clearly, and using it consistently, without making a big deal of it, is the most respectful approach.
What if I make a mistake?
Correct yourself briefly and move on — a quick, genuine correction is better than a long, overdone apology that draws more attention to the slip.
Are there terms I should avoid?
Skip outdated or clinical terms and any language that reduces her to a body part or category. If you're unsure, follow the language she uses about herself.
Is it overthinking to worry about language this much?
A little care goes a long way and doesn't need to be stressful — most of it comes down to basic respect and paying attention, not memorizing a long list of rules.
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